Is It Really Worth It?

I never really understood the concept of fighting over someone. Notice, that I did not say fight "for," yet fighting over. There is a huge difference and I feel that a lot people, women specifically lack understanding of this. I've heard so many stories of women (specifically) getting into physical altercations with other women over "their" man. Personally, I never really could bring myself to attack another female over a man...who was supposed to be loyal to me. I mean, how silly does it sound to fight another person...who shouldn't even be a factor over someone who is proving to lack loyalty to you? To me, it sounds really silly and something that really is not worth it at the end of the day. My question for women who have found themselves in this position is, what does this even prove?

What many women fail to realize is that getting into a physical altercation with another woman over a man proves nothing; absolutely nothing at all. If anything it negatively reflects on you and makes you appear to be weak, foolish and lacking in self-control. What that behavior does is give the other parties in the situation justification for why it took place to begin with. It's also a reflection of your insecurities and would only further this lack of loyalty on behalf of this "man." What would seem more important to me would be speaking directly to the man who brought another female into the equation. Spending time figuring out whether he is worth fighting "for" or if the relationship is worth salvaging versus going after another woman. Why waste time speaking to someone who shouldn't even matter? It seems like a no brainer to me. As people and as women we have to do better and make better decisions. We cannot give others a reason to justify mistreating us. We also need to behave in a way that is deserving of being treated in the best way possible. Women who find themselves constantly in this position need to analyze why this is constantly taking place and get to root. They need to examine what they may be giving off (insecurity wise) that is attracting men who lack loyalty in this way. Any man that is worth fighting for is one that you will NOT have to fight someone else over! Instead fight for his heart and his mind...the two hardest things to obtain from a man. Women, don't waste time and energy on that which will only deplete your self worth. Be all that you wish to receive from someone else and if they are not able to give it back to you...no hard feelings...kindly show them the exit.