Today's post was sparked after reading a blog post on Hello Beautiful about a college female who took to FaceBook to air her business about her man cheating on her and how low down he is. What I cannot seem to understand is what about this course of action benefits her? How and in what way is this justifiable? I mean if this man wanted any ounce of justification for his actions she definitely gave it to him after posting what she did on FaceBook. You can check out her post below:
Scorned Dartmouth Student Pens Crazy Breakup Letter On Facebook Cites the Bible
Ladies, WE HAVE TO DO BETTER! This is another example of wasted energy and only served to make the writer look foolish and scorned. All throughout her "letter" she reiterated all the things that he did that makes him low down, etc, yet, she still continued to be with him through it all. Interestingly, whatever drove her to this point of writing this on FB was only in the making...I mean we ALL as women have seen the RED FLAGS yet continued to remain in denial and then turn around and want to call men low down, etc. Now, I am not by any means condoning any of what he did...yet as women we have to take more responsibility for what we can control in each situation and that is US. She had control over seeing these things early on and making the choice to leave then. As women we need to reflect on ourselves and start to realize that there are things within us (insecurities) that attract certain men; the types that are able to read these insecurities. We attract them through the things we choose not to deal with...those things within us that say, "hey, even if you dog me out i'm not going anywhere because there is something in me that tells me that I cannot leave."
My brother sent me the quote above awhile ago and I have to agree that it is so true..."It is a man's job to respect a woman, but it's a woman's job to give him something to respect." This is something that is HUGE and is definitely missed in our generation of women. A lot of women walk around in delusion thinking that respect is owed to them and not earned. In general, we all have to possess things that people can respect, yet as women we also need to display those things to earn a man's respect. Nothing in what she posted was that of a woman that should be respected and could be in direct correlation to why things happened the way they did. The people in our lives reflect back to us who we are mentally and emotionally at different points and based on all the things she stated in her post...what happened is only a reflection of where her mind is currently in this stage of her life. EVEN so, her current mind state was definitely shown in her profane rant followed by a thrown-in Bible verse at the end, but I digress. As a woman who myself has not always made the best choices or used tact in every situation it is my hope that other women who read this will start to reflect and get beyond this petty way of responding to hurt. It serves no constructive purpose and only does more damage to the person who is hurt that the person(s) who caused the hurt. We have to find more productive ways of coping with being hurt (other than projecting this hurt on FB/social media outlets) and spend more of that energy reflecting on what is inside of us that condoned it in the first place. I mean think about it...why are you wasting energy on someone who probably is not even thinking about you? Something to ponder...
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